A secure person can tolerate, and often enjoys silence.
If they are with someone else, they have the ability to let someone else talk without having to interject their own perspective.
As children, we get our emotional energy from our parents; just like we get food, water, and shelter.
Just as food provides nourishment for our bodies, emotional energy nourishes our souls; giving us confidence and security.
Today, the idea that energy connects us all is becoming mainstream, especially with the advancement of quantum physics and the cultural phenomenon People need emotional energy like they need air.
Scientists have found that infants respond dramatically to human touch, and will almost “starve” without it.
A selfish person attempts to find security by surrounding himself with possessions, accolades, and attention. An overly accommodating person attempts to gain the approval of other people by bending over backwards for them.
A person has made a successful transition to adulthood when she has learned to provide food, water, and shelter for herself.
By the same token, she hasn’t fully matured until she has also learned to provide emotional energy for herself.
If they disagree with the criticism, they don’t try to argue because they’re happy with who they are. They fill every void with meaningless chatter, almost to avoid having to reflect on themselves.
They’re comfortable enough to be themselves, even if other people don’t like it. The unfortunate consequence is the annoyance of everyone around them, who secretly look for an escape.
(Think Michael Scott on “The Office.”) It feels good when everyone laughs at your joke, and an insecure person craves this sort of attention.